In your late 20s, there are typically 3 invites you will get – to the wedding, the baby shower, or the kid’s birthday party. Also,...
In your late 20s, there are typically 3 invites you will get – to the wedding, the baby shower, or the kid’s birthday party.
Also, your social media feed starts to remind you that everyone is either pregnant or already has 2.5 kids (which is not true).
If you are someone who doesn’t have a child yet (and you are actively TTC), this period of your life can be tough. Here are a few ways to cope when trying to conceive and everyone else is already pregnant.
It’s natural to compare yourself to others, but is it helpful? Not so much. You lead a different life, deal with unique circumstances, and are built entirely differently from everyone else. Therefore, you can’t compare your life to anyone else.
Comparison typically leads to one of two emotions, anger or jealousy. Both of which are not healthy for your physical and emotional wellbeing.
Plus, you never know what someone else is truly going through. For example, you might think it was easy for your friend to get pregnant, but in reality, maybe she’s been trying for years and never told anyone.
Join A Community
One of the easiest ways to see that you are not the only one going through this difficult time is to join a community of people going through the same thing as you. You can look for in-person support groups or virtual communities of like-minded people.
It might feel awkward at first, but the more you let your guard down, the more connections you can make. The key is to find a positive group of people and lift each other up!
Skip The Parties
You will get plenty of invitations to baby showers and kid’s birthday parties, and while you may feel obligated to go, you are not. It’s okay to say no if you know that environment is not suitable for you.
You can be honest with your friends and family. Tell them that you are not interested in attending these events right now. But you also don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. You are an adult, and it’s okay to simply say, “No, thank you.”
Use The Follow/Unfollow Button
Social media can make you feel like you are behind in life. You will see people who seem to have a perfect life. But you have to remember that social media is a highlight reel. People will always showcase their best days!
Use the unfollow button more often! If you are currently following people who make you feel bad, unfollow them. Discover other helpful accounts and follow them instead.
Another option is to abstain from social media as much as possible because no matter how much you try to avoid triggering content, it’s impossible to block it entirely.
Surround Yourself With People Who Get It
Just because your friends or family members are having babies, it doesn’t mean that they won’t be understanding or respectful of your situation. So it’s worth having an honest conversation with them.
If they don’t want to be supportive, you can limit your time together. But, if they completely understand where you are coming from, you can continue to do fun activities together!
You may have a friend who is going through a similar experience. It's important to be open to conversations about infertility.
Find a supportive community, focus on your wellbeing, and try to make the best out of your situation. Use this time to do things you won’t be able to once you have a child. Finally, and most importantly, continue to confide in people you trust because isolating yourself is not good for your wellbeing.
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